Create the Life You Desire
The Change Your Life category is all about evolution and personal growth. This is where readers can find articles that can inspire change, as well as practical tools and tips for changing your life and changing yourself.
The first step to change your life is to want some sort of change. So in some way, this internally driven change is born from dissatisfaction, And that’s great, in this case, discontent is our friend! That feeling that something isn’t working is a clear sign that it isn’t. It’s ok to trust that feeling. It’s there to make you want to change your life. Desire is a potent motivator.
I view desire as a navigational system. It guides me towards what I want in life and away from what I don’t want. It’s a beautiful thing really, and not entirely in my control. Have you ever tried making yourself want something that you don’t want? It doesn’t work.
Sure, it’s possible to just walk out your front door, leave behind all your possessions, change your name, and walk off into the sunset. But that’s usually not practical. More often, change is something that we work towards over time, day by day. It’s the small shifts we make that add up to total transformation in the long run.
By improving ourselves, we not only improve our own lives, but often the ripples of change improve the lives of those around us. If we are not happy, everyone who comes into contact with us can feel that. Shifting our life into a place of flow and satisfaction also impacts our relationships. Some might even end as a result, but these changes are often for the best. When you change your life to create alignment, your actions give others the permission and inspiration to do the same for themselves.
As I sit down to write this piece on authenticity and my future self, I feel that credit is due to a friend of mine, Vincent. For sharing his time and his truth, for all the deep dive phone calls that created a space for these ideas to emerge into our consciousness. There is something … Read more
We wouldn’t exist if it weren’t for desire. On the most basic level, carnal desire compels our species to reproduce. It is a natural capacity of ours. When our ability to desire wanes it tends to be a sign that something is wrong. We see that in cases of depression, or when a relationship is … Read more
Back in early March of 2020, a friend and I were talking about how it may be a good idea to stay home for a while. Cocoon and evolve were his wise words. We didn’t realize at the time that we were about to learn a potent lesson: How to change your life during a … Read more
It’s been a while since my last post, and there are a few reasons for my blogging hiatus. One of them is that I have two young daughters ages 5 and 7 so much of my time is wrapped up in the demands of motherhood. I also have a “day job” (there’s also a reason … Read more
Over the years I’ve kept this blog fairly impersonal. Although I share some of my stories, such as my results of 30 day challenges and occasional musings about my spiritual life, I haven’t really opened up about my own projects or aspirations. So in the spirit of personal growth and stretching my comfort zone, I’m … Read more
There’s an unsettling tendency in some spiritual circles to focus on all love and light. Yet there is a fine line between staying positive and being unaware of our own blind spots. Too much light can be blinding, and even young children know not to stare at the sun. The experience of being human contains … Read more
Finding purpose is one of life’s mysterious challenges. I once drove across the Sierra Nevada mountains and listened to Carl Jung’s Memories, Dreams and Reflections. While my eyes witnessed the distant peaks and followed the bends of the winding road, my mind absorbed Jung’s deepest thoughts and candid musings about life and the human relationship … Read more
What will emerge this month during the 30 Day Writing Challenge? Oh the potential! Where will I venture? What will I document, explore, revisit, expand? I feel dreadfully excited but it doesn’t show on the surface, subdued by this sore throat thing that my body is fighting. The good side is that being under the … Read more
“I give myself very good advice but I very seldom follow it.” ― Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass I want a personal assistant. Someone who will do all the things that I don’t seem to get done. Someone to whom I can delegate my to-do list and know that it … Read more
Anyone who has ever devoted the full intensity of honed human attention to a task knows that even the most mundane act has something deeper to offer. When we stay present with whatever we are doing, even a simple chore is an opportunity for transformation . This particular example of how chores can reveal hidden … Read more