Create the Life You Desire
The Change Your Life category is all about evolution and personal growth. This is where readers can find articles that can inspire change, as well as practical tools and tips for changing your life and changing yourself.
The first step to change your life is to want some sort of change. So in some way, this internally driven change is born from dissatisfaction, And that’s great, in this case, discontent is our friend! That feeling that something isn’t working is a clear sign that it isn’t. It’s ok to trust that feeling. It’s there to make you want to change your life. Desire is a potent motivator.
I view desire as a navigational system. It guides me towards what I want in life and away from what I don’t want. It’s a beautiful thing really, and not entirely in my control. Have you ever tried making yourself want something that you don’t want? It doesn’t work.
Sure, it’s possible to just walk out your front door, leave behind all your possessions, change your name, and walk off into the sunset. But that’s usually not practical. More often, change is something that we work towards over time, day by day. It’s the small shifts we make that add up to total transformation in the long run.
By improving ourselves, we not only improve our own lives, but often the ripples of change improve the lives of those around us. If we are not happy, everyone who comes into contact with us can feel that. Shifting our life into a place of flow and satisfaction also impacts our relationships. Some might even end as a result, but these changes are often for the best. When you change your life to create alignment, your actions give others the permission and inspiration to do the same for themselves.
Caveat: this article mentions some statistics on marriage only to reveal a trend in our regard (and perhaps capacity) for a long-term relationship. But the discussion here applies to any human relationship, short or long or backed by a government certificate or not. I now present to you Love, Ego, and the Long Run, a … Read more
The greatest threat to our freedom is so close to us we often miss it. Picture yourself fast asleep. Someone is asking you to wake up, but you are deep in a dream, and the call to awaken is experienced as a vague awareness that something is not quite right. We are in that dream, … Read more
Many of us aspire to do something meaningful with our lives. The word aspire comes from the Latin to breathe, so there is a clue here that on some level, if we are not aspiring, we are not breathing, and we all know what happens if you stop breathing. You may not drop dead immediately … Read more
We are living in a time that offers us countless ways of escaping real life. And while clicking on headlines on the internet might not be as taboo or destructive as an opium habit, it is still a form of distraction that steals us away from reality and eats away at free time we could … Read more
Surrender. A word I did not use much until I had children, and then it emerged as one of the central experiences of motherhood. Yet one does not have to be a parent to embrace this concept. The ability to surrender is a powerful tool for mastering your thoughts and emotions. The next time you … Read more
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer Everyday Zen by Charlotte Joko Beck is one of the most powerful life changing books I’ve ever read. Joko reminds us to stop thinking life will be better at some other point in time. (After work. My day … Read more
I stopped writing for a year. It was a time management decision, but one that honored the fact that I could not continue writing this blog without being a hypocrite. Living my best life does NOT mean staring at my computer while my one and a half year old is holding my leg saying mama … Read more
A long time ago, I decided to re-wire my brain. I suspected that most of our thoughts, low moods and fears are the result of an untrained mind. The more we think a certain way or do a certain behavior, the more those connections in our brain get reinforced, and the thinking or behavior becomes … Read more
One of the most powerful ways to free yourself to change your life is to step back from your ego. A few weeks ago I wrote about how You Are Not Your Ego, and this topic is such a vital part of improving your life that I’m feeling compelled to elaborate. What is Ego? If … Read more
One of the best ways to change your life is to read a powerful book. Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality certainly fits that category. Awareness is about waking up, and fairly abruptly to boot. Anthony De Mello’s teaching style is very direct. Unlike many other books out there that attempt to handle this … Read more