What To Do When Bored In Any Situation

What To Do When Bored: Photo of Magdalena

I’m never bored. It’s not because I have some magic list of what to do when bored. I just don’t experience boredom, perhaps in the same way that a sociopath doesn’t experience empathy.  In the past I’ve tried to explain this to bored friends (who were certainly not bored from hanging out with me, ahem, … Read more

Conscious Parenting and the Power of the Present Moment

Conscious Parenting and the Power of the Present Moment

Motherhood is hard. It is by far the most demanding and relentless responsibility I’ve ever had. The full reality of parenthood is not often talked about. There’s a lot of hype about how rewarding it is . . . yes . . . and . . . I never hear about any pre-parenthood counseling that … Read more

Transformation and the Hidden Power of Chores: Lessons from the Mundane

Anyone who has ever devoted the full intensity of honed human attention to a task knows that even the most mundane act has something deeper to offer. When we stay present with whatever we are doing, even a simple chore is an opportunity for transformation . This particular example of how chores can reveal hidden … Read more

Love, Ego, and Long Term Relationships

Caveat: this article mentions some statistics on marriage only to reveal a trend in our regard (and perhaps capacity) for a long-term relationship. But the discussion here applies to any human relationship, short or long or backed by a government certificate or not. I now present to you Love, Ego, and the Long Run, a … Read more

The Greatest Threat to Our Freedom

The greatest threat to our freedom is so close to us we often miss it. Picture yourself fast asleep. Someone is asking you to wake up, but you are deep in a dream, and the call to awaken is experienced as a vague awareness that something is not quite right. We are in that dream, … Read more

How to Read the Signs: The Message of the Pussycat Hats

“something as simple as a hat can be profoundly and profanely illuminating, if you know how to read the signs” – Avery Gordon* This quote was scribbled into a notebook of mine from nearly 20 years ago. The words always intrigued me, and over the years they would haunt my thoughts, reappearing unexpectedly in moments … Read more

One Simple Habit that Makes Life Easier

Surrender. A word I did not use much until I had children, and then it emerged as one of the central experiences of motherhood. Yet one does not have to be a parent to embrace this concept. The ability to surrender is a powerful tool for mastering your thoughts and emotions. The next time you … Read more

Life Changing Books: Everyday Zen: Love and Work

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer Everyday Zen by Charlotte Joko Beck is one of the most powerful life changing books I’ve ever read. Joko reminds us to stop thinking life will be better at some other point in time. (After work. My day … Read more

The Benefits of Meditation, and What Happened When I Stopped

Benefits of Meditation: How to Stay in the Present Moment

A long time ago, I decided to re-wire my brain. I suspected that most of our thoughts, low moods and fears are the result of an untrained mind. The more we think a certain way or do a certain behavior, the more those connections in our brain get reinforced, and the thinking or behavior becomes … Read more

Free Yourself to Improve Your Life

One of the most powerful ways to free yourself to change your life is to step back from your ego. A few weeks ago I wrote about how You Are Not Your Ego, and this topic is such a vital part of improving your life that I’m feeling compelled to elaborate. What is Ego? If … Read more